Tips on How to be Perfectly Happy - Koon Yew Yin

 As you already know, everyone is trying to do or to get what he desires every day. Sometimes even if we achieved what we wanted, we are still not satisfied and unhappy.   

You must remember our ultimate aim in life is happiness.

Here are some tips to become happy:  

1 Be grateful and learn to say thank you
Greed is often the cause of unhappiness. If we bear this in mind, it is easier for us to be satisfied and be happy. We must be thankful for whatever we have. When we wake up in the morning, we must be thankful that we did not die last night and we have another beautiful day to enjoy. Many people do not realise this and remain unhappy. In fact, psychologists use this technique to treat people with mental depression.

2 Solve problem one at a time:
Our brain never stops searching for solutions, for problems that worry us. This requires a lot of energy, causing the brain to feel tired. Consequently, the problem remains unresolved, leaving us feeling anxious or irritated. On the other hand, for every successful decision, our brain rewards itself with a dose of happiness that help calm the limbic system, helping us to see the world in a better light. So, to prevent yourself from feeling exhausted, tackle problems one at a time.

3. Don’t keep things pent up: talk about what bothers you
The process of going through something while keeping everything bottled up, or talking about your predicament involves using different parts of the brain. In the latter case, negative-emotions that arise while talking about your problem have a lesser impact on your well-being. For this reason, it is advisable not to keep your problems pent up. Talking about your issues will enable the brain to trigger the production of some chemical to make us happy.

4 Touch and embrace:
Social interaction is very important to us humans. Studies show that physical support, particularly touches and embraces, can speed up a person's recovery after an illness. Removing tactile interaction from your life, is interpreted by the brain as physical pain: the same brain zones become activated in both instances. This triggers the processes that affect your mood, contributing to the development of depression.

5. Learn, learn, and, once again, learn!
Acquiring new knowledge means permanent adaptation to a changing environment. Through this process, our brains develop, rewarding its own attempts to absorb and process fresh information with dopamine - the hormone of joy. So, if you want to be happy, don't be afraid to try something new, change your surroundings, and learn new things.

6 Sports
While physical activity causes stress for the body, as soon as the stress ends, the body gets a reward: a dose of endorphins, released by the pituitary gland. This effect is similar to that of morphine which reduces pain and elevates the mood. Thankfully, you don't need to run marathons to do that, walking is enough.

7. Always try to get a good night's sleep
Sleeping in the dark allows your body to secrete the hormone, melatonin. This hormone slows down all processes in the body, helping it to recover and increase the level of serotonin in the hypothalamus. However, if the brain detects a change in lighting, it triggers the release of the stress hormone, quickly awakening the body. It is therefore important to sleep 6 to 8 hours a day and only in darkened rooms.

8. Engage in pleasant expectations
Waiting for something, such as food, is similar to the learned salivation response. Our brain is able to experience pleasure by simply anticipating the pleasant event. It is why we are so fond of counting the hours and minutes to a special moment, such as a birthday, or even the end to a long working day.

9 Live a life of no regrets:
Most people would tell their inner secrets to their trusted friends just before they die. They often have 2 regrets. They wished they had said something that should be said and live a life that they like and not a life to please somebody.

10 How to create happiness?
As I come from a poor family of 12 siblings, I know how difficult life can be. When I was 11 years old, my mother died and my father remarried. My step mother produced another 4 children. I was always in need of something especially food as I was always hungry.

Now I am fairly rich and I must remember that I am spending my children’s inheritance.

That is why, I have given more than 300 scholarships to help poor students to complete their tertiary education. All my scholarship recipients do need to work for me or pay back the money I spent on them. But they must promise me that when they graduate and have some money to spare, they must remember that I helped them when they were poor, they must help other poor students. By this way, I have created many charity workers and the number will continue to multiply after I die.

I am creating happiness and in return, I get happiness. I find great satisfaction and happiness whenever some of my scholarship recipients thank me after their graduation.  

Finally, I have written in my will that all my remaining assets will be donated to charity.